The Five-Step Guide to Women’s Sexual Liberation
Within any community of women, sexual liberation is often a taboo topic. Bringing up the subject of sex during a casual conversation will often result in gasps and startled faces. Because of the negative stigma attached to sexually liberated women, we are often afraid to engage in this kind of deliverance. For those who wish to destroy that mindset, however, here is the five-step guide to women’s sexual liberation.
Step One: Educate yourself.
What the heck even is sexual liberation? A quick Tumblr or Twitter search should get the job done quickly and easily. You’ll find several different denotations of what sexual liberation means for several different people. Once you’ve formed your own definition of the term, you’ve completed the first step in sensual deliverance.
Step Two: Delete it!
Erase whatever society has trained you to believe about sexual liberation from your memory. You are your own person with your own beliefs and that is perfectly okay. Sexual liberation is not only for men. Sexual liberation is for you. Sexual liberation is for her. Sexual liberation is for everyone. This is your life and you plan to live the way you want to.
Step Three: Stop caring.
This step won’t be easy. You’ll face judgment. You’ll get in arguments. You’ll find yourself wondering if sexual liberation is for you and you may even lose a couple friends along the way. However, making it past this step means that you are truly dedicated to breaking down the conventional standards that society has set for you and other women all over the world. You go, girl.
Step Four: Find your person.
Whether it be Maya Angelou or Cardi B., we are confident in the fact that every single sexually liberated woman has another sexually liberated woman to look up to and seek out for inspiration. Find your favorite sexually liberated quote from your spirit animal and literally live by it. Put it in your bio. Put it on a sticker. Put it on a t-shirt. Memorize it. Write it down and fall in love with it.
Step Five: Show the world.
You are now your favorite sexually liberated woman. You have a favorite pornography category. You know which “sexual gif” page on Twitter to go to during “Third Shift Twitter.” You’ve put much thought into your favorite sexual position. You don’t mind having educational and intelligent conversations about sex. And most importantly, you love inspiring other people to sexually liberate themselves, too. Go get ‘em, girl.
Things You Need To Know About Sexual Consent
In a nutshell, sexual consent is when you and your sexual partner both agree to have sex. It’s really important to be clear on this before things get too hot and heavy.
This can help if:
- you’re thinking about whether you’re ready for sex
- you want to know how you give consent
- you want to know how to slow down or stop sex.
Sexual consent must be explicit
There’s only one way to know for sure if someone has given their consent: if they tell you. It’s no good just to assume that the other person is as into it as you are. It’s extremely important to check, because any non-consensual sexual activity (even kissing and touching) is harmful and against the law.
You can always change your mind
You and your sexual partner can decide at any time that you don’t want to keep going, even if the sex stuff has begun. If this happens, both people should stop.
It’s good to check in with each other
Take notice of your sexual partner’s body language. For example, if they seem tense or uncomfortable, pause and ask them how they’re feeling. But don’t rely on them to notice your body language – speak up and tell them how you’re feeling and if you want to stop or take a break.
It’s fine to slow things down or stop
There’s really no rush to have sex if you’re not feeling it. If things are moving along too quickly for you, you could say something like ‘Can we slow down?’, ‘Can we take a break?’ or ‘Can we stop?’
Drink and drugs affect consent
If you’re really drunk or high, you can’t give consent. And if you’re sexual in any way with someone who’s drunk or high and doesn’t know what’s going on and therefore can’t give informed consent, it’s equivalent to raping them.
Remember: if you’re both equally as enthusiastic about having sex, it also makes the sex much more pleasurable and enjoyable. Bonus.