At Ajustscotland, we get all kinds of questions about sexually liberated Scotland. We cover a few of the basics below.
What Does Sexually Liberated Mean?
“Sexual liberation” means different things to different people, particularly across generations. At Ajustscotland, we define “sexually liberated” as people in an intimate relationship. The relationship may be sexual, but it doesn’t have to be. It may be serious or casual, straight or gay, committed or open, short-term or long-term. We use the gender-neutral term “partners” to refer to people in an intimate relationship, but you might use a different word (and that’s okay)! No matter how you define dating, it’s important to remember that abuse can occur within all kinds of intimate relationships. That’s why it’s important to recognize the warning signs!
So…Are We Sexually Liberated?
Whether you call it “sexual liberation” or something else, all partners should agree on a definition and the same ground rules for the relationship. Keep these questions in mind:
- Do you have romantic feelings for this person?
- Are you and the person you’re interested in both looking for a committed relationship?
- Do you hang out or go on dates without a group of friends?
- Is the status of your relationship something you’ve shared with others in person or online, like on Facebook?
- Do both people in the relationship agree that it’s exclusive?
How Old Do I Have to Be to Be Independent?
There’s no singular right answer to this question, because everyone is different! Many parents set an age for their kids according to their culture, views and beliefs. Consider talking to your parents, family and friends to see what their thoughts are. If you think that talking to your parents might be hard, start with your friends or other adults you trust. Ultimately, what matters is that you personally feel ready and confident to make this decision.
But What If I’m Not Sexually Liberated?
There are other types of relationships that might not be considered sexually liberating that are just as real and valid. Maybe you are with somebody but do not consider yourself to be in a relationship with that person. Being together could feel like more than just dating, or you might have chosen not to be together anymore; there is no one way that relationships must work.
Another possibility is that you and your partner are married. Of course, marriage is different in some ways, but you might be surprised at how similar they really are!
At Ajustscotland, we focus on dating relationships, but the information on this website is helpful for all kinds of relationships!
What If I Don’t Feel Safe Talking to Someone About What’s Going On?
That’s a totally normal feeling to have. Sexual liberation issues can be hard topics to discuss, but in our experience, getting support can be really helpful. You don’t have to go through it alone! Here at Ajustscotland, we have trained peer advocates who are friendly and non-judgmental. So feel free to contact us anytime and know that we’ll keep our conversations completely confidential.